Enhancing Love in Couples Therapy & Marriage Counseling
Pursuing love is something on which society is hyper-focused. Nearly every story we are told, likely as early as we can recall, has either a love story in it or has a love story as its main focus. Love is hardwired into us. In order to feel emotionally safe and secure, it is reinforced for us that we need someone with whom we can feel completely vulnerable.
Therefore, it makes sense that love and romance give us a profound sense of joy, thrill, and satisfaction.
The opposite is also true. It’s very difficult not to feel an abundance of distress and emotional pain if our romantic relationship is chaotic, numbed, or strained. Throw in all the advice available to us online and from people we know, it’s hard not to feel overwhelmed, lost, or stuck. At some point in our lives, we all have struggled with the weight of love’s pursuit. This is why Golden Vibes Counseling Center offers couples therapy and marriage counseling for consenting adults in any situation.
There is no shame in saying you need a couples therapist for support!
Admitting that couples therapy is needed for your relationship is difficult. Love is “supposed to” just happen or “be easy” and “feel right,” right? Love is always changing and evolving. The deeper we connect, the longer we are together. The longer we are together and the more attached we become, the more effort is needed to make love endure, not less. As time goes on, it’s hard not to get comfortable and fall back on societal messaging and our family of origin dynamics.
These tell us we should be masters of something we weren’t instructed how to do, and an incredibly important aspect of our lives then becomes something we judge our self-worth upon. At Golden Vibes Counseling Center we have seen this create a cycle of trial and error, which can put us in very confusing, anxious, and lonely states of being.
We Place A Lot of Pressure On Ourselves
Individuals often place high demands on themselves, their partners, and the expectations of role fulfillment they have for them. Esther Perel, a well-known couples therapist, and author says, “Today, we turn to one person to provide what an entire village once did: a sense of grounding, meaning, and continuity. At the same time, we expect our committed relationships to be romantic as well as emotionally and sexually fulfilling. Is it any wonder that so many relationships crumble under the weight of it all?”
We set ourselves up and blindly create high expectations on the roles our partners are supposed to fill and excel at. We judge ourselves harshly for how good we are at being a partner against this difficult standard, and we do the same to new partners and/or partners we have been with for decades. We often start pondering if we are “good enough” or how “good enough” our partners are. It is easy to feel helpless when you’re lost in these thoughts and feelings.
Couples and Relationship Therapy Can Help With
- Strengthening connection and vulnerability
- Understanding how you give and receive love
- Navigating your attachment style
- Rebuilding sexual intimacy
- Exploring polyamory or kink in a healthy, supported way
- Identifying core wounds and emotional patterns
- Healing from recurring conflicts
- Understanding how family systems influence your relationships
What Can I Expect from Couples Therapy at Golden Vibes?
Couples Therapy typically starts with the partners attending their first session together. Then, each partner has an individual session with their therapist. This happens so your couples therapist can get to know each partner’s history and unique perspective on what brings them to therapy. After that, all sessions are with the partners present. Please note, that couples therapy and marriage counseling are not about fighting mediation or identifying who is right and who is wrong. It is about examining communication patterns together and identifying the emotional stories that are within them. Couples therapy is less about identifying “fair fighting” techniques and more about improving connection, communication, and healing from disagreements.
Anyone can seek therapy for their relationships. Maybe you have only been dating for a few months, but you and your partner want to work through smaller issues to prevent them from becoming larger. Maybe you have been feeling stuck and strained in your relationship for some time and desire to find a path toward healing. No matter your relationship status or level of distress, it is healthy to explore how to grow in your relationship.
Couples Therapy & Marriage Counseling can help with
- Improving connection and the ability to be vulnerable
- Identifying how you give and receive love
- Navigating your attachment style(s)
- Rebuilding sexual intimacy
- Identifying your core hurts and narratives of pain
- Processing and healing of fights in healthy ways
- Understanding how your family of origin and the systems you grew up in impact your relationship
Marriage & Couples Therapy at Golden Vibes!
When you are ready to begin therapy, Golden Vibes Counseling Center is here for you. Our couples therapists can help you anywhere in the state of Wisconsin, Florida, New Hampshire and Virginia with online therapy. We know that getting started in couples therapy or marriage counseling can be its own source of stress and worry, so we make it simple with these three steps!
Reach out to speak with a couples therapist.
Have your first appointment at Golden Vibes Counseling.
Start strengthening your relationship!
Insurance & Payment Options
Golden Vibes is in-network with most major insurance plans, and we’re glad to work with clients using out-of-network benefits.
About Golden Vibes
Golden Vibes Counseling Center is committed to helping empower all people’s wellness journeys through access to reliable, unbiased, and non pathologizing mental health treatment. Our staff challenges the myths, stereotypes, and stigmas that surround mental health issues and treatment that prevent people from getting help they deserve.
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